It is what it is…

You’re writing your autobiography. What’s your opening sentence?

It is what it is.

That would be my opening statement for my autobiography. Not your usual opening but it’s an important saying for me.

So many times I’ve faced situations in my life that I’ve had no idea how to deal with but then I’ve realised, some things are way out of my hands and I can’t fix them straightaway or at all.

Growing up that feeling of being out of control, being out of my comfort zone or just not having an action plan would make me anxious. I would spend days being upset about it, asking God ‘why me’, ‘why am I always struggling’. It was always one thing after another, no break, no time to breath or float.

What you don’t realise, is that when you go through tough situations that you can’t change, that weren’t caused by you, you start to see things differently. You become resilient and nothing fazes you. May that be you health, education or relationships. Nothing moves you.

You begin to just go along, slowly, drifting and not letting anything affect you…

You learn that the only person you can improve is yourself. You realise it’s you. If you don’t let it affect you and you don’t let the situation move you then you won’t let anything or ANYONE affect you. You will automatically be calm, resilient and confident.

Now this I tell you, will ABSOLUTELY scare those who are trying to break you, who are trying to get under your skin. It’s a skill. Our mind is an amazing place so we should use it to our advantage if we are able to.

We can’t always change the situation but we can change ourselves. I have long way to go yet and by no means am I always calm in all situations but I know that sometimes…

It is what it is.


Do you believe in Fate/Destiny

Do you believe in fate/destiny?

Fate/Destiny. Weird isn’t it. Sometimes things happen at a time in your life where you just know that it was meant to be. It’s happened to me. It’s happened to people I know.

For instance, my husband and I went to the same university, we knew the same people. I’d even heard about him. When I started medical school, he left and I NEVER met or saw him at university. Not once.

We were 5 years apart at medical school but still, out of nowhere we found each other. Nobody would have EVER and I mean EVER thought that we would end up marrying each other, let alone be friends.

It always makes me think that we were walking, talking, living in the same place, perhaps he was even working in the same hospital whilst I was training. Did we walk past each other? We must have driven past each other at some point? I recall hearing a friend speak about him and I asked ‘who’s he’ and then replying ‘cool’ not knowing that I was talking about my future husband.

Destiny? I think so! Meant to be? Yes. What is meant to be will be. We just have to go along with the ride and stay happy.

There’s many other instances in my life where I have been astounded by how things have happened. A lot of the time it’s not been easy but each time I’ve come out the other end learning and knowing that if it wasn’t for this hardship then I wouldn’t have what I have now.

So, YES. I believe in fate & destiny! I believe some things are written and meant to be! ❤️